
NEW YORK CITY. May 16, 1831. On Marriage in America: Beaumont's letter to his family
It is impossible not to admit that there is much morality in this people. (This at first glance seems hard to reconcile with what precedes) but I explain. Morals there are extremely pure. A woman who does not conduct herself well is cited as an extreme rarity. To tell the truth, you meet only happy households. People get together often in winter; but everything in the last analysis comes down to family life. Unmarried men pay attention only to girls; these once married think only of their husbands. So long as they are not engaged, they exercise an extreme freedom in their relations. One sees them out walking alone, for example. A young man accosts them, goes to the country with them, and this is considered quite natural. They receive at home without their parents finding fault. But this life of freedom ends for them the day they get married. In short, the happiness which seems to reign in their families has something tempting in it. Doubtless I should never want to marry in a foreign country, because such a union entails a host of unpleasant consequences. But Tocqueville and I, glimpsing the happiness so common here and so rare in other countries, were unable to keep from saying that, if we should ever be victimized by political circumstances in France, we would come to live here with our wives and children.

NEW YORK CITY. May 26, 1831. Beaumont's letter to his family, concerning the Appearance of American Women; Opportunities to Meet Them in Society.
We take our places [for lunch] at a table always served with meats more solid than well prepared, and around which are seated some very pretty persons, occasionally accompanied by some very ugly ones. The great merit of women here is to be very fresh complexioned. Beyond that they have very few, or rather they have none at all of those exterior charms which contribute so powerfully to elegance of figure and whose rounded form so agreeably flatters the eye.
I don't know why I speak of their physical qualities, for they are above all remarkable for their moral virtues. I said in one of my letters that in general they are of very severe principle and irreproachable conduct. All of the people who have made observations on this point confirm me in this opinion.
Evenings we go out into society. We see several American families fairly often, particularly that of Mr. Prime, our banker. He is the richest business man in New-York. He has a tall daughter, dry and homely, an excellent person, who is a good musician [Mathilda Prime]. We play charming duos of flute and piano, which amuses me a good deal...We also see the Jones family allied to the Shermerhall [Schermerhorns] with whom we were on the vessel which brought us to America. There are also in this house some very attractive girls, but without beauty, and rich rather than seductive..
We are received with infinite kindness in the Livingston family. Mr. Edward Livingston is at this moment Prime Minister of the United States. His family is very numerous. I see particularly his nephew John Livingston, for whom Montebello had given me a letter. Mrs. John Livingston is a charming woman, as attractive as can be, and flirtatious as well. But I do not know and shall never know myself if her coquetry goes further. We are to go together in several days to visit the military school of West-Point, which is only a few miles from New-York.
There are, finally, some very attractive women in the Cruyere [Schuyler? Grier?] , Duer families, etc. etc., where we go when we have the time.
If we went into society with intentions of pleasure or seduction, we could regard as lost the time we pass in these families. But as our resolutions are entirely opposed to this result, we find only profit in it.

SING SING, NEW YORK. June 6, 1831. Deplorable lack of musicianship of American Women.
Staying in town at a boarding house, Beaumont wrote this as a pseudo-legal document or affadavit, 6 June 1831:
The said Sir Alexis, formerly reproachable for too cool and reserved an air of society, too much indifference toward those he didn't like, and a silent and calm attitude too near to dignity, has accomplished a complete reform in his manners. He is now seen to be affable and agreeable toward every one, kind to old ladies as to young, and putting himself out to entertain even those whose face he doesn't like. Is an example of this necessary? The fifth of June in an overwhelming heat, we found ourselves at Sing-Sing in the parlour of a respectable woman (more respectable perhaps than she of whom Brantome spoke and Descessars reminded us on the eve of our departure). This lady, who numbers about 45 springs, is passionately fond of music, an unhappy passion if ever there was one. To our misfortune, she sits down at the piano, she begins an infernal music which she continues two mortal hours, singing, crying, howling as if she were possessed of the devil. Traitor to my habits, I was in a corner succumbing to ennui and without strength to dissimulate.
What was Alexis doing at this moment? Seated near the piano with a smiling face, he was approving, applauding each tirade, and pouring the balm of satisfaction on the soul of our virtuosa, avid for praise without measure. He really had the air of enjoying himself, and the expression of happiness was painted on his face! And yet that woman was ugly, old, and a detestable musician!! There's the man!

NEW YORK. Country estate of Mr. Prime. June 15, 1831. Beamont's letter describing a society wedding reception
Our evening yesterday was even finer. Mr. Prime has just married off one of his daughters. For this occasion he gave a charming party at his country place. He is a neighbour of Mr. Schermerhorn, but his house is without comparison more beautiful and agreeable than the latter is. There was a howling mob; all the fashionable women of New York were gathered there. That's the first time we've seen many women together. It seemed to me that several of them were very pretty. I am not certain because one alone occupied me during the evening. Miss Fulton [Julia Fulton] rightly passes for the most beautiful woman of New-York; it is to her that I continuously paid the tribute of my admiration. We took some charming walks by the light of the moon. Alas! It is a hundred to one that I shall ever see her again. She is the daughter of the famous Fulton, inventor of the steamboat. It seems to me that this great man did not apply his process to the creation of children, for she hasn't at all the air of being filled with vapour.

NEW YORK. Escape from New York Society: Beaumont's letter
[Our] tour to Niagara and Canada will be a little pleasure tour which will recompense us for the boredom of the towns. After having suffered all that civilization can produce that is most fatiguing and boring, we shall find a certain charm in this excursion into lands which are still wild and where nature has preserved her primitive beauty. I am tired of men, and above all of Americans. I have kept too far away from American women to know if they are attractive, so it's with a true feeling of happiness that I leave them and their cities behind to go into parts where I have many chances of not meeting them. I say chances because I am not certain of my fact. Niagara draws a great crowd, especially at this season, and there are a few of our devoted friends who threaten to rejoin us. We should even be certain to find ourselves among them if we hadn't taken the course of misleading them as to our route.

PHILADELPHIA, PENNSYLVANIA. October 1831. Beaumont's time as a guest of Robert Walsh; Balls and Music
At frequent intervals he gives small soirees, where we did some fine waltzing, I promise you. They play at his house some very good music, which would I am sure compare very well with the music of Gallerande. At the last concert I heard an Englishwoman, Miss Sterling, who is d'une tres grande force on the piano. Anne Walsh, the younger [of the daughters] sings marvellously; she was a real success in the duo, Amour sacre de la Patrie, which she sang with Mr. Dirigi, a little Italian who is not wanting in talent but who, because of his affectation and his grimaces, makes one die laughing...
Many of my evenings have been spent in small gatherings, simple, not very brilliant, but very agreeable. Don't expect of me a description of moeurs, that would be to enter upon a path without end; all that I can say is that this society is very happy. The women practise an unrestrained coquetry. But all the world agrees in acknowledging that they stop there. Among the husbands, there are some who are amiable enough to deserve their good fortune; but in general they are much more happy, and much better treated by their wives, than their qualities give them a right to be. The fact is that, with the exception of a small circle of literary men whose civilized ways and European manners quite recall our most agreeable salons, it can be said that at Philadelphia, as in all the other cities of the United States, the American men are occupied with but one single thing, their business.

PHILADELPHIA, PENNSYLVANIA. October 1831. Beaumont's experience with racial segregation at the theatre.
The first time I entered a theatre in the United States, I was surprised at the care with which the spectators of white skin were distinguished from the black faces. In the first gallery were the whites; in the second, the mulattoes; in the third, the negroes. An American, near whom I was placed, pointed out to me that the dignity of the whites required this classification. However, my eyes wandering to the gallery of the mulattoes, I noticed there a young woman of striking beauty, whose complexion, of a perfect whiteness, betrayed the purest European blood. Entering into all the prejudices of my neighbour, I asked him how a woman of English origin could be so shameless as to mingle with the African women.
That woman is coloured, he answered.
What? Coloured? She is whiter than a lily!
She is coloured, he repeated coldly. The tradition of the country establishes her origin, and every one knows that she numbers a mulatto among her ancestors.
He pronounced these words without further explanation, as one would utter a truth which, to be understood, needs but to be stated.
At the same instant I made out in the gallery of the whites a face that was half black. I demanded the explanation of this new phenomenon. The American replied: The woman who now attracts your attention is white.
--What? White! Her complexion is that of the mulattoes.
--She is white, he insisted. The tradition of the country says that the blood flowing in her veins in Spanish.
**All above excerpts from Beaumont's letters are taken from Tocqueville and Beaumont in America, by George Wilson Pierson, 1938.

Excerpts from Beaumont's Marie.
PROLOGUE. Conversation between Ludovic at the end of life and a French traveler in Michigan, on the difference between marriage in Europe and in America.
In Europe, said the traveler, abandoning himself to his poetic feelings, all is dirt and corruption! Women there stoop to sell themselves, and the men are stupid enough to buy them. When a young girl marries, she does not seek a tender soul with which hers may unite, she does not ask for a support to her weakness: she marries diamonds, a title, freedom. Not that she is heartless; she may have loved once, but her beloved was not sufficiently rich. They haggled over her; the man could not throw in a carriage with his price; the bargain fell through. Then, they tell the young girl that love is all foolishness; she believes it, and corrects her mistaken notions; she marries a rich idiot. If she has any soul at all, she pines away and dies. Usually she lives happily enough. Such is not the life of a woman in America. Here marriage is not a business, nor is love a commodity. Two beings are not condemned to love or to hate each other because they are united; they join because they love each other. Oh, how attractive these young girls are, with their blue eyes, their ebon eyebrows, their pure, candid souls! How sweet the perfume wafted from their hair, unspoiled by art! What harmony in their gentle voices, which never echo the passion of greed! Here, at least, when you court a young girl, and she responds, it is a meeting through tender sympathy, and not through cold calculation. Would it not be losing an opportunity for tranquil but delicious felicity not to seek the love of an American girl?
Ludovic listened calmly. When the traveler had ceased speaking, he said, I pity you for your errors; I will not undertake to correct them, for I know how worthless to one man is another's experience. I am, however, distressed to see you pursuing these chimeras. I might, by a single example, prove to you how misled you are. You have just been praising the merits of American women. The picture you have drawn is not entirely false; but your imagination has given it smiling colors which are not there.
I believe I can easily paint for you, without bias, a faithful portrait of the women in this country; for I have received neither kindness nor abuse from them.

CHAPTER 2: "AMERICAN WOMEN." General appearance; manners; courtship and marriage.
American women generally have well-informed minds but little imagination, and more reason
than
sensibility.
The education of women in the United States differs completely from that of women in our
country.
In France a young girl lives, until she marries, in the shadow of her parents. She is
placid and
trusting, because always at hand there is tender solicitude which watches sleeplessly over her;
spared from
thinking because others think for her. Doing as her mother does, with her joyful or sad, she is
never ahead
of life; she follows its current. So the tender vine, attached to the branch which upholds it,
receives from it
violent jolts or tender swayings.
In America, she is free before adolescence; having no guide but herself, she walks
aimlessly on
untried paths. Her first steps are not so dangerous; the child sets out on its journey into life as a
fragile
craft glides unendangered upon a calm sea.
But when the stormy billows of passion roll up, in early youth, what becomes of the
frail skiff,
with its swelling sails and its inexperienced pilot?
American education wards off the danger: at an early age the girl is informed of the
traps
besetting her path. Her instincts will defend her but poorly; she is taught to place her trust in
reason; thus
enlightened on the snares which surround her, she depends solely upon herself to avoid them.
She is never
lacking in prudence.
These guiding torches given to the adolescent girl are a necessary consequence of the
liberty she
enjoys; but they deprive her of two qualities which are so charming in youth: candor and
naivete.
The American girl needs knowledge to be chaste; she knows too much to be called
innocent.
This precocious liberty gives her thoughts a serious turn and stamps her character
with a certain
masculinity. I remember hearing a girl of twelve discussing and answering the grave question,
Which of
all the kinds of government is best? She placed the republic above all others.
This coolness of the senses, the supremacy of the mind, this masculine behavior
among women,
may find favor with one's intellect; but they hardly satisfy the heart....
In the United States, when two people realize that they suit each other, they promise to
become united to
each other, and are what is called engaged; it is a sort of unsolemnized betrothal, and has
no other
binding force than their own sworn word.
This affianced young person, who cared so little about making herself pretty, was more of a
coquette than any of the other young ladies, because she was disinterested. That put an end to
my
admiration. At any rate, excessive flirtatiousness is a characteristic common to all American
girls, and is a
consequence of their education.
To every girl over sixteen, marriage is the great interest in life. In France, she desires it; in
America she hunts it. Since she is so early the mistress of herself and her own conduct, she
makes her own
choice.
One can appreciate how delicate and perilous is the young girl's task, trustee of her own
destiny;
she must have in herself the foresight which in France a father and mother have for their
daughter.
Generally, one must admit that she fulfills her mission with admirable sagacity. Within this
pragmatic
society, where everyone is engaged in business, American girls have theirs too: that of finding a
husband.
In the United States, men are cold, and tied to their business affairs; one must either run after
them or
attract them with powerful allurements. It is no wonder if the girl who lives among them is
prodigal with
studied smiles and tender glances. Her coquetry is, however, enlightened and prudent; she has
taken the
measure of her arena, she knows the bounds over which she may not step. If her strategems
merit censure,
at least their aim is irreproachable, for she wants only marriage.
There is no lack of opportunities for young people to reveal their mutual inclination and
tender
feelings. It is customary for them to go out together unaccompanied, and in doing this the young
men give
no offense to decorum. The only formality they must observe is that of walking separately, for a
man may
offer his arm to a young lady only if he is engaged to her. One may observe the same freedom in
the
drawing room. Rarely does a mother take part in the conversations of her daughter; the latter
receives
whom she pleases, entertains him unsupervised, and sometimes invites to her home young men
whom she
has met elsewhere and who are unacquainted with her parents. There is no impropriety in her
acting thus,
for these are the customs of the country.
American flirtatiousness has a quite special nature; in France a coquette is less desirous of
marrying than of pleasing; in America she is eager to please only in order to marry. In France,
flirtation is
a passion; in America, it is a calculation. If a young lady who is engaged continues her
flirtations, it is
more through prudence than inclination; for it has happened that a fiance breaks his word;
sometimes a girl
foresees this dread possibility and tries to capture other hearts, not for the sake of possessing
several at a
time, but in order to have a replacement on hand for the one she risks losing.
In this case, as in all others, she provokes, encourages, or holds off the sighing swains with
complete freedom.
In America this freedom is given to a woman only to be snatched away suddenly. In our
country,
the young girl exchanges the swaddling bands of infancy for the bonds of matrimony; but these
new bonds
rest lightly upon her. In taking a husband, she gains the right to join the outside world; by
engaging herself
she becomes free. Then begins the life of parties, pleasures, conquests. In America, on the
contrary, the
gay life is the young girl's; she retires from worldly pleasures to live among the austere duties of
the
domestic hearth. A man pays homage to her not because she is a woman, but because she can
become a
wife. Her coquetry, after catching her a husband, is of no more use, and after she has given
herself in
marriage, she uses it no more.
In the United States a woman ceases to be free on the day when, in France, she becomes so.
The privileges enjoyed by a young girl, and the early reduction to nonentity of the married
woman, greatly increase the number of engaged people. In general, the purely ethical
contract,
which arises from this sort of betrothal, is ratified soon after by marriage, but not infrequently
young girls
endeavor to postpone the event. Acting thus, they achieve a double goal: engaged, they are sure
of
marrying, but are not yet wives; the certainty of future wifehood is secured while the liberty of
girlhood is
retained.
Nothing, in American women, appeals to one's imagination; there is , however, one side of
their
character which makes a deep impression on any serious-minded man.
The morality of a population may be judged by that of its women, and one cannot observe
the
society of the United States without marveling at the respect in which the married state is held.
This
respect never existed to so high a degree among any of the ancient peoples, and European
society, corrupt
as it is, cannot conceive of such moral purity.
In America they are no severer than elsewhere toward the irregular life and toward even the
debauches of a bachelor; many young men can be found here whose dissoluteness is well known,
and
whose reputations do not suffer thereby; but their excesses, to be pardoned, must be committed
outside the
circle of family and friends. While indulgent concerning the pleasures obtainable from
prostitutes, society
condemns without pity those who obtain them at the expense of conjugal fidelity; it is as
inflexible toward
the man who incites the transgression as toward the woman who acquiesces. Both are banished
from
society; and to incur this punishment it is not even necessary to have been guilty; to have aroused
the
suspicion suffices. The domestic hearth is an inviolable shrine which no breath of impurity must
besmirch.
The morality of American women, fruit of a serious and religious upbringing, is
protected further
for other reasons.
Completely engrossed in practical matters, the American man has neither the time nor
the
temperament for tender sentiments or gallantry; he is gallant once in his life, when he wishes to
marry. He
is undertaking a business affair, not a love affair.
He has no leisure to love, still less to make himself loved. The taste for fine arts,
which is so
closely allied to the pleasures of the heart, is forbidden him. If, emerging from his industrial
sphere, a
young man displays a passion for Mozart or Michelangelo, he loses public esteem. Fortunes are
not made
by listening to sounds or looking at colors. And how chain to the accountant's stool one who has
once
known the charms of a poetic life?
Thus doomed by the traditions of the country to confine themselves to practicality, young
Americans are neither preoccupied with pleasing women nor skillful at winning them.
Moreover, there is a corrupt element, influential in European society, which is not to
be met with
in the United States: this is the idle rich and the soldiers in garrison. The wealthy without
professions and
the soldiers without glory have nothing to do; their sole pastime is the corruption of
women--impetuous,
open-handed youth, in need of space and action; comparable to the flood waters of the
Mississippi:
beneficial when flowing freely, deadly when stagnant.
In America, everyone works, because no one is born rich, (It does happen, by
accident, that a few
young people are conditioned by an inherited fortune and a polite education to gallantries and
social
intrigues, but they are too few in number to be a nuisance, and if they give the least indication of
troubling
the peace of a family, they find the American world leagued solidly against them to oppose and
crush the
common enemy. This explains why American bachelors of wealth and leisure do not stay in the
United
States but come to live in Europe, where they find men of intellect and corrupt women.) and the
dreary
idleness of the garrison is unknown here, because the country has no standing army.
Thus, the women escape the perils of seduction; if they are pure, one cannot tell if it
is due to their
virtue, for this has not been put to the test.
The extreme ease of becoming rich also comes to the aid of upholding morality;
money is never
an essential consideration in marriages; commerce, industry, the practice of a profession, assure
young
people of a living and a future. They marry the first woman they fall in love with; and nothing is
rarer in
the United States than a bachelor of twenty-five. Society thereby gains more married men in
place of
licentious bachelors. Finally , the condition of equality protects marriages, while difference in
rank
obstructs them in our country. In the United States there is only one class; no barrier of social
distinction
separates the young man and young girl who agree to become united. This equality, propitious
to
legitimate unions, is highly embarrassing to those which are not. The seducer of a young girl
necessarily
becomes her husband, whatever the difference in their economic position, because while
superiority of
fortune exists, there is no difference at all in rank. The rectitude of tradition, which applies less to
individuals than to socity as a whole, gives a serious cast to all American society.
This country is dominated by a public opinion, from
whose rule no woman can flee... [it] condemns all passion without pity, and authorizes
calculation alone;
indifferent to sentiment, it is exacting concerning moral obligation.
Love, the charms of which form the whole life of some European peoples, is not understood
in the
United States.
CHAPTER 5: MARIE. Literary Habits of American Women; Musical Ability of American
Women.
Nelson was in the habit of commencing the evening by asking his daughter if any new books had
come
out; for, in the United States, men read nothing; they haven't the time; the women are charged
with this
duty, and they report on all the political and literary publications to either their fathers or their
husbands,
and so inform them that they may discuss these works as if they knew them. Then Nelson would
request
his daughter to play some music.
The young girl showed some embarrassment at my presence; however, since her father never
listened to her playing, she assumed I would be no more attentive. Now, generally, in American
drawing
rooms, when the music begins it is a signal for conversation. I admit that at first I had very little
curiosity
about how Marie would perform. Most American girls are automatons at the piano; they take
lessons for
three months and memorize one waltz and one contradance; when one asks them to play, they
rush to the
piano and, without any warming up, dash therough their little repertory like children who know a
story and
babble it to all comers without understanding a word.
All the women in this country learn music, but hardly one has a feeling for it; they do this
because
it is fashionable, not because they like it...
[Marie] united in her person all that was seductive in American women, with none of the
faults which
overshadow the light of their good qualities. One would have thought her a European girl, with
ardent
passions, a lively imagination, with Italian sensuousness and a French heart; and this girl,
American by
reason of her mind, lived in the midst of a moral and religious world!
CHAPTER 8: "THE REVELATION." Consequences of Mixed Parentage in America;
Miscegenation Laws.
Secretly he [Don Fernando d'Almanza] spread the rumor that Theresa [Marie's mother] was,
through her
great-grandmother, a mulatto; he brought proofs to this allegation which could justify it, naming
all the
forebears of Marie back to her whose impure blood had, he said, tainted the whole family.
His denunciation was hateful, but it was true. The stain upon Theresa Spencer's
origins had been
lost in the night of time. At Fernando's voice, sleeping memories reawoke--the memory of man
is long when it comes to the misfortunes of others! Public opinion was in a
turmoil; a sort of inquest was held; the oldest inhabitants were consulted, and it was found that
a century
before, Theresa Spencer's family had been soiled by a drop of black blood.
In following generations this admixture had become imperceptible. The whiteness of
Theresa's complexion was dazzling; nothing in her features disclosed the flaw in her origin; but
tradition
condemned her.
From that day on, our life, which had flowed with such peaceful sweetness, became
bitter and
cruel. The more highly we had been respected by the world, the more shattering was the shame
of our fall
from grace...
We live here [Baltimore] in outward tranquillity: the trouble is in our hearts alone.
Not a soul knows the shame of my children; but it might be discovered any day. We
are loved an
honoured, because no one knows who we are. One word from a well-informed enemy could ruin
us: we
are like a guilty man whom society believes innocent, not daring to accept a prominent position
because
too overhwleming a disgrace would follow the revelation of his crime...
Marie... submissive and resigned to her destiny, seeks the shadow of isolation.
This is the secret of her aversion to society. Ah yes, indeed she surpasses all the women of
Baltimore in
intelligence, talent, and goodness; but she is not their equal....
[interview with Nelson, following the revelation]
N. the child of a slave belongs to the slave's master, as the fruits of the soil belong to the owner
of the
land. The loves of a slave leave no more trace on society than does the breeding of plants on our
gardens;
and when he dies, the only thought is to replace him, as one replaces a fruitful tree destroyed by a
storm.
L. Thus your laws forbid Negro slaves to have filial respect, paternal love, and conjugal
tenderness.
Then what is left to them in common with mankind?
N. The principle once admitted, these consequences follow: the child born in slavery knows no
more of
family life than does an animal. The maternal bosom nourishes him as the teat of the wild beast
feeds her
young. The touching relationships of mother with child, of child with father, of brother with
sister, have
neither sense nor moral value to him, and he does not marry, because, belonging to someone else,
he
cannot give himself to anyone...
L. However, a white man, if such was his wish, could marry a free woman of color.
N. No, my friend, you are mistaken.
L..What power could hinder him?
N. The law. It contains an express prohibition, and declares such a marriage null.
L. A hateful law! But I shall defy that law.
N. There is a more serious obstacle than the law itself, that is tradition. You are ignorant of the
condition of women of color in American society. You must know (I blush to say it, for it is a
disgrace to my country) that in Louisiana the highest position that can be held by a free woman
of
color is that of a prostitute to white men.
New Orleans is largely populated by Americans from the North, who have come to
make their
fortunes, and leave as soon as they have made them. Rarely do these transients marry; and this is
the
obstacle that hinders them:
Each summer, New Orleans is ravaged by yellow fever. At this time, all those who
can, quit the
city, go up the Mississippi and Ohio Rivers, and seek in the Northern or central states, at
Philadelphia or
Boston, a more salubrious climate. When the hot season is over, they return to the South and
resume their
business. These annual migrations are easy for bachelors, but they would be inconvenienced by
a family.
The American man avoids all vexation by not marrying, and by taking an unlawful companion;
he always
chooses one from among the free women of color and gives her a sort of dowry. The young girl
is honored
by a union which brings her together with a white man; she knows she cannot marry him it is
much in her
eyes to be loved by him. She might, according to law, have married a mulatto, but such an
alliance would
not raise her out of her class. Also, the mulatto has no power to protect her; in marrying a man
of color she
perpetuates her degradation; she raises herself by prostituting herself to the white man. All
young girls of
color are brought up with these prejudices, and from the earliest age their parents mold them to
the end of
corruption. There are balls where none are admitted but white men and women of color; the
husbands or
brothers of the latter are not received; their mothers customarily attend and are witness to the
attentions
paid to their daughters, encourage them, and rejoice in them. When an American man's fancy is
caught by
a young girl, he approaches her mother, who bargains shrewdly, demanding more or less as a
price
according to whether her daughter is more or less of a novice. All this goes on, quite openly;
these
monstrous unions have not even the decency of vice, which hides itself in shame, as does virtue
for
modesty's sake; they parade undisguised before all eyes, and no infamy or blame is attached to
the men
who form them. When the American from the North has made his fortune, he has achieved his
goal. One
fine day he leaves New Orleans and never returns. His children, and she who for ten years has
lived as his
wife, are nothing to him. Then the girl of color sells herself to another man. And that is the fate
of women
of the African race in Louisiana.
CHAPTER 9: "The Test." American Opinion of French Manners.
It is a widely held opinion in the United States that the customs of France are still those
of the Eighteenth century; a great number of people believe that vice is still in fashion,
that the time is passed in gallantries to the ladies, in drawing-room intrigues and
frivolity. This opinion among Americans is due mainly to the influence of a number of
English novelists widely read in the United States, who, knowing nothing of France
themselves save through books, are half a century behind the times...
CHAPTER 12: "The Test: Literature and Fine Arts." Absence of Gallantry in America; Small
Number of Theaters in America.
Poetry began in France with the songs of the trouveres and with chivalrous love. Such
could never be its origin in the United States. The men of this country, whose respect
for women is profound, scorn all outward show of gallantry. A woman alone among
several men, having lost her way, or been abandoned on a ship, need fear no harm; but
she will get no homage. In America they know the merit of women; they do not sing of
it...
If large theaters are rare, small ones are unknown. This absence of liking for the
drama is doubtless part of morality for American society, who, having no theaters, do
not go each evening to laugh at cuckolded husbands, to applaud happy lovers, and to
look with indulgence on adulterous wives. The Americans are moral because they
have no plays; they have no plays because of their morality. This is cause and effect in
one.
CHAPTER 15: "The Virgin Forest and the Wilderness." Picture of a Wilderness Cottage.
Our shelter that night was a little log cabin, the dwelling of a New Englander who had
settled near the Indians to deal in furs.
Upon our arrival our horses were turned loose in a narrow enclosure near the
house. Our host hastened on foot to cut fodder for them in an oat field; then, taking an
ax, he cut down a tree in the forest, with which he built a fire to keep us from the chill
of the night. The logs of which the cabin was built let in the outside air through a
thousand openings, and the damp mist from the river could already be felt. Soon a
crackling fire, fed with pine cones, lit up the shadowy dwelling, and let us look about
the hut, cramped but remarkably clean. A woman with a pale, thin face appeared; she
was our host's wife, and around her flocked several young children. A crudely painted
picture of General Washington was hung above the fireplace. In the United States,
Washington is god in the cottage as in the Capitol! On a table in the middle of the room
were scattered several pages of a fairly recent New York paper. Everything in our
host's house suggested material comfort rather than happiness. Their manners were
polite without elegance, their speech correct without refinement, their knowledge
accurate but limited--all this showed that they were not born in the wilderness and
that they belonged to the middle class of a civilized society. Their sole aim, their fixed
idea, was to make their fortunes; they were like all other Americans.
The woman prepared us a modest meal; tea was served in the wilderness hut.
This odd situation would not have been without its charms for me, if Marie had been
able to enjoy it herself; but she was unwell. A long day of traveling had weakened her;
she did not partake of the repast which would have mended her strength. I took great
pains to prepare a place for her to rest in; a buffalo hide served as a bed; I covered her
feet with my cloak, and then, overcome with weariness, Marie took one of my hands
as a token of security, and , leaning against me, fell asleep.
APPENDIX B: Note on American Women. On the Different Roles of Men and Women in
Marriage.
The most striking trait in the women of America is their superiority to the men of the
same country.
The American, from his tenderest youth, is devoted to business; hardly has he
learned to read and write when he becomes a merchant. The first sound in his ears is
the chink of money; the first voice he hears is that of self-interest; he breathes at birth
the air of industry; and all his early impressions persuade him that a business career is
the only one becoming to a man.
The lot of the young girl is not the same; her moral education goes on till the day
she marries. She acquires knowledge of history and literature; she generally learns one
foreign language (ordinarily French); she knows a little music. Her life is intellectual.
The young man and this young girl, who are so dissimilar, are united one day in
marriage. The first, continuing in his habitual course, spends his time at the bank, or in
his shop; the second, who becomes isolated on the day she takes a husband, compares
the actual life which has fallen to her lot with the existence of which she had dreamed.
As nothing in this new world before her speaks to her heart, she lives in daydreams
and reads novels. Having little happiness, she is very religious and reads sermons.
When she has children, she lives in close contact with them, cares for and loves them.
Thus pass her days. In the evening the man comes home full of care, restless, overcome
with fatigue; he brings to his wife the fruits of his labor, and already dreams of
tomorrow's specualtions. He asks for his dinner, and offers not a word more; his wife
knows nothing of the affairs that preoccupy him; in her husbands's presence she is still
isolated. The sight of his wife and children doesn to tear the American away from the
practical world, and he so rarely shows them a sign of tenderness and affection that a
nick-name has been made for those households where the husband, after an absence,
kisses his wife and children--they are called "kissing families." In the American's
eyes, the wife is not a companion; she is a partner who helps him spend for his well-
being and comfort the money he earns in business.
The sedentary and retired life of women in the United States explains, with the
rigors of the climate, the poorness of their complexions; they do not leave their houses
or take any exercise, and they live on a light diet; almost all of them have a great
number of children; it is not astonishing that they grow old so fast and die so young.
It is a life of contrasts; exciting, adventurous, almost feverish for the man, sad
and monotonous for the wife; it flows on uniformly until the day when the husband
announces to his wife that they are bankrupt; then they have to leave, and recommence
the same existence elsewhere.
Every American family, then, contains two worlds: the one entirely material, the
other wholly moral. Whatever the closeness of the bond that unites the couple, there is
still a barrier between them, separating the soul from the body, and mind from matter.
APPENDIX F: Note on Polygamy Among American Indians.
The basis of the story of Oneda is entirely true. Polygamy exists among all the savage
tribes of North America; each Indian has as many wives as he can get. These women
really live in a state of servitude; they prepare the Indian's food, take care of his clothes,
and do not leave his hut while he is hunting or on the warpath. The relations between
the Indian and his wives are completely material; nothing moral or intellectual enters
in. It is by no means rare to see three sisters serving as wives to the same man. The
condition of Indian wives is as wretched as can be imagined; they have none of the
prerogatives proper to wives in civilized societies, nor any of the sensual pleasures
given them by the customs of the Orient, where they are slaves.
I said that the Indian has as many wives as he can get; it would perhaps be
more accurate to say that he gets as many as he can feed; for the lot of the Indian family
is so hard that parents readily give their daughters to any one who can keep them alive.
In this, all depends on the man's skill as a hunter; a famous hunter ordinarily has a
large number of wives because he can provide them all with a means of existence.
The marriage of an Indian with his wives is accomplished with no ceremony,
and sometimes is dissolved a few days after its formation. However, this happens
infrequently; the Indian who breaks such a tie so easily would injure himself in the eyes
of his tribe and would find no other family inclined to make an alliance with him.
One can imagine that this life of fatigue, wretchedness, and opprobrium would
discourage and sicken Indian women; indeed, suicide is very frequent among them.
The anecdote I have introduced into the text of my book seemed to me one of the most
striking examples of the despair into which the unhappiness of these poor creatures can
plunge them.
APPENDIX G: Note on American Sociability.
On this point we must distinguish between the Southern and the Northern states. All
the Southern states are slave states--this fact has tremendous influence on the customs
of the Southerners. The slaves work--the free men are idle. The Southerners thus have
a leisure lacking to the Northerners; they can receive guests without neglecting their
business. Nearly all of them live far from each other, and away from cities; a friend's
visit, or the passing of a stranger, is a happy event in a lonely dwelling place and, far
from disturbing the rural family, is an occasion for rejoicing.








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